Rest your head and sleep my special one safe and sound.
Dream of good things — all the things you love.
You are loved and I will see you in the morning.

Keep your bedroom a pure space to go to at the end of the day to relax, retreat and sleep. The bedroom is a space that most people do not invite many people into. It is your personal, private space. By nature of the activities that take place in the bedroom, including loving your partner, your bedroom is a more intimate space — a yin space. Try not to bring into your bedroom any work related business. I do not recommend exercise equipment in the bedroom either. Most of the time when I do have a client with exercise equipment in the bedroom it is hung with clothing directly in view of the bed — creating a subtle guilt on a subconscious level where the client is always thinking that they should be losing weight and exercising when they climb into bed. This does not lead to a restful sleep or a sensual, intimate relationship!

I also suggest that you do not have photos of your children, family or friends in your bedroom — this recommendation is especially for married couples when their relationship is suffering. Too often I find that couples begin to loose their intimacy once children are born. So often I go into a client’s bedroom and there are so many photos of the children, even children’s drawings and art projects hung around the room. Because these photos are in your face, your energy can be focused toward the people in the photos verses your partner. I suggest you place photos of you and your partner as a couple in your bedroom — photos where you each are relaxed and in love — such as a marriage photo or one from a relaxing vacation. The family photos work well in hallways, kitchens or dens.

Artwork that is placed in the bedroom should be of peaceful scenes from nature or images that feel sensual and safe. For example, I would not recommend a painting of a ship with its rail in the water during a storm no matter how well done and expensive the painting may be.

It is advisable to work with soothing colors — colors that are not too intense or bright. Your intention is to create a space that feels peaceful, sensual, and protective. You might try a stronger color behind your bed such as a deep brick red (not an intense fire engine red) or a darker shade of a color that you love. This darker color behind your bed could suggest a protective mountain behind you — similar to having a headboard — giving you more power, strength, and security while you sleep.

Sometimes there is only one place to put the bed because of closets, windows, heating and air units. See if you can place your bed in a way that if there is a bathroom off of the bedroom, either you or your partner do not see it while lying in bed (or keep the bathroom door closed). I also advise that you do not place your bed in direct line with the entrance of the room because it can make you feel more vulnerable — ideally you would want to be able to see the entrance door from your bed but not be in line with the door.

Choose fabrics for the bedroom that feel rich, soft and sensual to your touch. Think in terms of silks, velvets, chenille, and high thread count soft cottons. Having fabrics that feel sensual, warm and cozy on the outside will make you feel that way on the inside.

People often ask me about mirrors in the bedroom because they have read in many feng shui books that they are bad to have in the bedroom. I do not recommend hanging a mirror over your bed because if it fell — it would hurt (not good to sleep under a heavy mirror). But otherwise I see no problem of having a mirror in your bedroom as long as it is not reflecting the dirty laundry or the toilet in your face while you lie in bed. If you have a mirror in your room and you are not sleeping, you may want to try covering it with a sheet for a few nights to see if your sleep gets any better. If it does, remove the mirror (without sounding weird, sometimes during our sleep state our astral body may be attracted to the mirror and sleep can become restless). Restlessness may also be from the thoughts you take to bed with you. You might try taking the television out of your bedroom and watch what you are reading before you go to bed too.

Each room has its function. I invite you when you walk over the threshold of your bedroom and leave the world behind and enter your own little retreat. Fill it with fresh flowers, scented candles and fresh air. Surround yourself with furnishings and images that you personally love — If you sleep well you will be healthy, happy and good the next day's adventures.