"And as I lay my head upon your shoulder and give myself to your open arms I feel safe and protected. I am home. So sweet your scent, so soothing the rhythmic flow of your breath which keeps time to your heartbeat. These musical pulsations match the music inside of me creating harmonies beyond the sands of time. Your love is food for me. Without it I shall starve. You are my shelter, your skin the only clothing I need. I am there for you, to support and love you. Together we shall share love in all its manifestations and build a shrine that will protect and mirror our love to each other and the world."

When we choose to marry our lives together and make a home, a nest, we make a brilliant declaration of this thing called "love". How does your home project love? How do you keep the love reflected in your home 25 years after the marriage? Do you want a relationship? Even if your are not married, how does your home reflect the love you feel inside?

To begin with, ask yourself what you may be holding onto from another marriage or relationship. As mature as we all can be, when it comes to having to live with other gifts or photos from past lovers of our present lover, it can be difficult and destructive. Plus, it also is a subtler energetic drain on the new relationship for you may spend time (ever so slight) having your heart and energy toward your new relationship pulled away when you see these objects. For sure, keep friends, but make your mind up which you love and get on with it. I advise you to clean out the past. For those of you who have lost a loved one, when the time is right, and only you shall know that (it is different for all of us) you can let go of many of their things and keep a few in a sacred place where you honor them. Know that those who have passed on only want our happiness.

Once you have cleaned out your past (so to speak) look at your home. How are you reflecting the love you feel for your partner in life? What is going on in your bedroom? Is there a beam cutting across your bed, cutting your marriage in half? Is your bedroom outside the front door — perhaps symbolizing that one of you may stray outside the marriage? Is there equal space along each side of your bed or is one of you stifled and feeling closed in? Do you have any color or patterns that can nurture the passions or are the walls a blank white? What are the mirrors reflecting your love? What accessories do you have around your room? Are they books on war or love? Is the art sensual or self centered? Is there laundry in the corners of the room or worse yet, other people’s stuff, i.e. business or children related things in the corners? What is the floor of your home made of? Floors are the foundation under your feet. Is it secure and comfortable? Is it strong? Is it cracked and moldy?

Let us move to your kitchen and dining area. What is happening here? Sharing food can be a very sensual, connecting and loving activity, even if you ”take-in”! Breaking bread, toasting with a glass of wine, sharing a piece of wedding cake — all are ageless traditions of celebrating and sharing life. How does your kitchen and dining area enhance this? What is the lighting? Is it harsh or warm? What dishes do you eat from on a daily basis? Are they cracked or whole? Do you bless your food and each other? Life is so short it can be scary at times. Enjoy, respect and love each other every moment you have.

Throughout your home (which is a reflection of the inner you) keep it fresh and clean. Bring new items in and let go of old soiled items. Play music of fun, love, jazz, life. Burn candles for their scents and light. Create your home to be your field of play and security. It sounds contradictory but, that is the way of life. Be apart and together at the same time. Love and hate. Be the Queen and the King, the student and the teacher. Lighten up and become enlightened. Play each other like an instrument and make music. Flowers, scents, color, fabrics, textures, lighting, art and furniture all contribute to create a love potion in your home. May your home reflect the love, peace and happiness you have in your marriage.